2nd Grade Bibles

This weekend we handed out bibles to all of our current 2nd graders. If you were not here this weekend, please ask any of our children’s team and we will get your 2nd grader a bible.

As a church, we are in a partnership with you, the parents, to help them fall in love with God’s word. On the weekends, you can count on our teachers and shepherds to encourage the kids to bring their bibles each week and use them in class. They’ll help them learn to find the books and chapters and get comfortable using the tools in the bible. They will also offer rewards for scripture memorization and for bringing their bible to church.

All of that will only go so far when we see them for one or two hours a week. You, as the parent, can have a much stronger impact at home. And the great thing is – if we work together, the impact is tremendous! So join us in this adventure and turn your child into a bible reader for life! Try one or more of these ideas at home:

Personalize it:
Consider a bible cover that protects the book and makes it easy to carry. Include a bible highlighter, a pencil or pen and a few bookmarks. Purchase child-friendly bible tabs to help them easily find the 66 individual books of the bible. Explain to your child that this book is their own and they can highlight, underline, write notes in the margins and even draw in the blank spots.

Enrich it:
Invite parents, grandparents, other family and friends to underline or highlight their favorite stories or verses; then sign it and identify it as their favorite. Have those same family members or close friends write a letter to your child explaining the significance of the bible in their own lives. They can include their own favorite scriptures and meanings behind them and they can end with a prayer of blessing for the child and their bible. Ask the pastors and leaders of our church what their favorite scripture passages are and why. Do this through email so you can print off their responses and keep them in a special place. By the way, one of my favorite scriptures is Isaiah 40:29-31. It really helps when I feel weary or out of strength (physical and mental).

Bless it:
Ask one of our pastors, a parent, or grandparent, to pray over the child and their bible. Gather as a family and put the child and their bible in the middle of a circle. Pray a special blessing, or have each person take turns saying a prayer.

Explore it:
Help your child discover the table of contents, the concordance and other special sections of their bible. Try utilizing those sections for finding new stuff in the bible. Look at the unique ways this children’s bible is laid out and let your child explore the fun sections.

Celebrate it:
Create or go out for a special meal to celebrate this milestone. Bring the Bible and talk to the child about how important this day is in their lives. Explain why you want them to have a bible and how they can use it in their daily lives.

Carry it:
All of the celebration, discovery and enrichment of a bible will not matter if the child does not learn to use it on a daily basis. Encourage them to take it to church each week. Teach them to go to it for answers when life presents tough situations. Read parts of the bible during your regular bedtime routine, and discuss its meaning afterward.

Model it:
The best way to teach a child to do something is through modeling it for them. Let them see you reading your bible. Even if you normally do this after or before they are awake, take a few opportunities to read it in front of them. Talk about how you found an important scripture in your readings that helped you. Carry your bible to church with you and keep it handy at home. The more they see you opening the bible, the more they will want to open their own.

I can hear what some of you are thinking – “What if I am new to this whole Bible thing myself? What if I don’t know the answers to their questions about the bible?” This is where it is important to understand that God isn’t expecting you all to be bible experts. He just wants to use you to show your family his love and grace. This means you can quit worrying about what you know or don’t know about God and the Bible. Just be honest with your kids. If you got a late start on your walk with God, tell them that. If you have never really read or understood the bible yourself, tell them that too. If you can’t answer their questions about the bible or God, just say, “I don’t know” and find the answers together. Learn to turn to your church family, the pastors and other leaders to find answers. Pray about things you want to understand and pray with your child. Be willing to except the mystery of God. After all, if we understood everything about God, we wouldn’t need God, would we? God will honor your eagerness to know and understand. God loves you and wants to know you better. One great way to get to know God is by exploring the bible along side your family.

Rev. Tina Schramme
Children & Family Pastor

Easter Eggs

We are not hosting an Egg Hunt this year. I know many churches probably don’t do Egg Hunts because it is too “secular.” They believe Easter is about the Risen Christ, not plastic eggs and candy. I respect their convictions. For us though, we think you can hold both hand in hand. Yes, the Resurrection is one of the most important events in the life of the Christian. It gives new meaning to life and death for me personally, and as a church we celebrate it heartily. At the same time, Easter provides a time for family, and celebration of spring, and new life, and Easter eggs and candy!

So we have held a very large Egg Hunt event for the past 10 years. As our church has grown, so has the egg hunt. It started on the grounds of our church, on the little bit of green space we had. Then as the campus grew, our green space diminished. So we moved it to the park.

We collected thousands of eggs, literally – over 6000 eggs last year. We divided the kids into age groups, to keep the egg hunt fair. We put up ropes and markers so we could “hide” the eggs before each group started. But because we had so many participants and so many eggs, we didn’t really hide anything. We simply poured out buckets and buckets of eggs and spread them out in the park. Then we would blow the whistle and let the “hunting” begin. Except there was no actual hunting involved. It was more of a “grabbing.”

Kids would run as fast as they could to a spot and begin grabbing as many eggs as they could put in their basket or bag. The bigger faster kids, well, got a lot more eggs. In the toddler category, sometimes it was the more aggressive parents who claimed more eggs. The whole thing was over in a matter of minutes. It was very anticlimactic. We tried adding music and a story and food over the years, but it seemed families really just wanted to come for the eggs.

Each year, after the event, I would feel a bit of angst. Something in me said, “This is all wrong.” Ultimately, our team decided that we were teaching our kids the wrong message: “Restrain yourself behind the line until it’s time to go, then race to grab as much as you can for yourself.” At Easter, when we remember the ultimate sacrifice Jesus made for all of us, the selfishness of it all seemed counterproductive.

So this year, we opted to hand the Egg Hunt tradition back to the families. Instead of participating in a giant Egg Grab with lots of other families, how about you create your own Egg Hunt for your family. Or perhaps you use this opportunity to invite neighbors or friends you’d like to know better. Maybe it is a big family event with all the grandparents and cousins. Use plastic filled eggs and traditional boiled eggs. Create an egg coloring station and let kids dye the eggs before hiding them. Fill plastic eggs with coins, special family treasures or puzzle pieces for creating a puzzle later. Let your whole family hide eggs for another family and visa versa. Let older kids hide eggs for the younger. Relish the fun of finding treasure hidden in the tall grass and shrubs. Read the Easter story aloud to all the kids and enjoy each other. Get to know your neighbors and extend an invite to church while you’re at it. Yes, the church isn’t hosting an Egg Hunt this year, but you can. Be disciples who love God and others! Happy Easter!

Marriage – guest post

Enjoy this guest post from my friend Jeff Green. He wrote these lovely words in celebration of 25 years of marriage to Tricia Green. They struck a chord in me. I think they will do the same for you.

In light of our 25th anniversary, Trish and I thought a lot about how to celebrate it. We’ve decided we should (gulp) renew our wedding vows. 25 years seems like a good marker to say some nice words to each other. To put the shine on new wedding rings and cowboy boots. To make sure others know exactly how we feel.

It’s funny, people sometimes ask me how we’ve stayed together so long, and I always feel like I should give some sage advice. But the advice always seems to be that it’s work…hard work.

It’s work worth doing, don’t get me wrong. And most of the time the work isn’t even that hard. But if you don’t do it, if you try to coast through on good faith, good sex and the occasional bouquet of flowers, the whole thing will evaporate into a whisper of smoke from an untended fire.

Marriage is work, you say? What kind of work?

The simple work that makes the other person feel special. Yes, you can vomit into your puke bowl now if you wish, but the truth is that we all want someone to make us feel special. The minute you stop doing special somethings for the person you love is the minute you make them feel less special. And then they feel less loved. And then love isn’t enough. So maybe the key to marriage is putting gas in her car when it’s almost empty, or just doing the dishes. Or wearing that perfume he likes, or seeing the movie he/she really wants to see and you could care less about. See, it’s mostly the small stuff…the easy stuff.

And yet.

I think most people give up in a benign kind of way. It’s not that they don’t care, quite the contrary. But somewhere along the way they get to feeling comfortable enough, or passive-aggressive enough to stop working at it. And why not? We’re settled down now, right? And we have to spend so much of our time trying to make everyone else in our lives happy. Bosses, children, parents, friends and nosy neighbors. We figure, hey, she knows I love her. I’ll do something nice for her tonight, this weekend, next month, on her birthday…later.

When I think about the vows I’ve written for our renewal ceremony I get a little overwhelmed. Is this the time to simply thank each other for having kept the old vows, or should we try to come up with different vows, which are more representative of who we are today? Twenty-five years ago, a sweet old Pastor married us. We were scared to death he was going to forget Tricia’s name…he kept calling her Teresa. We’ve made so many promises, agreed to so many vows, that I wasn’t sure where to start this time. Frankly, I’m not totally sure I know what I agreed to the first go around.

And here’s the thing, through our ups and downs, ins and outs, highs and lows, and with the occasional thrown balled up sock (that was me), we seem to be doing a pretty good job riding the wave of our first vows. And as much as I like the symbolism of making things new again, I’m pretty content with the old stuff. Then we’ll start on the next 25 years. Which we’ll take, just like the last set, one nice deed and one thrown sock at a time.

Just Talk About It

The Search Institute published research findings from a study called Effective Christian Education: A National Study of Protestant Congregations. These findings tell us what factors were involved in producing adults who now profess a mature faith. Here’s what they found:

Certain personal experiences have a measurable positive impact on the maturity of faith of the believer. The most powerful of these experiences is conversations about God with one’s mother during the ages of 5-12. But among mainline denominations 16-18-year-olds, almost 40% say that conversation rarely or never occurred.

Talking with one’s father about faith or about God at the ages of 13-15 is another powerful correlate with mature faith, but 56% say this has happened rarely or never for them. Other powerful experiences for children and youth are talking with other relatives about faith, the experience of having family talks about faith, family service projects, and the number of friends who have strong religious interests.

Take away: Parents, talk to your kids about their faith and yours. I’ve been saying this for years; you don’t have to have formal family devotions, just make your faith a part of every day life and conversation. Make a point of using the words, God, Jesus and Faith every day. You’ll be surprised how easy it is when you try. When you struggle with an issue, talk about it, ask for prayers, and do the same for your kids. Point out when you see God’s handiwork. Talk about how God works or has worked in your life. You don’t have to show them a perfect picture of a Christian, just talk. You’ll be teaching them that Christianity is a way of life, not an event on Sundays.

Pastor in training

What if you had a week to learn how to be a pastor? Doesn’t seem like quite enough time, does it? It’s not. Fortunately for me, a week of licensing school is only part of the journey. But for some of the folks here with me, they are already leading congregations, preaching weekly, and serving in most capacities as a full time pastor. So this week is especially important to them! Are you curious what they teach us in Local Pastor Licensing school?

Here is what I learned:
Most United Methodist churches are small. Like less than 200 small.
Most pastors have to be the preacher, accountant, janitor, teacher, encourager, and music director in their churches, because there is no one else.
Preaching is a learned art. I still have a lot to learn.
Marriage is a sacred act and it is my role to help couples understand this.
Pastoral care is about listening and helping people turn towards God in their time of need.
The one thing we all have in common is that we all need grace. All of us. Everyone.
Authenticity is something people want to see in their pastors. Complete exposure is not.
The sacraments (baptism and communion) are not of human choice, but of divine grace.
I will never take the clergy hat off. I will be a pastor in all settings, as it is a calling to a way of life, not a job.

Oh yea, we also learned how to perform a wedding ceremony, plan a worship service, conduct a funeral, baptize a baby and lead a church.

Leaving Rwanda

As I write, I am on a plane heading for the US. I already miss Rwanda. I miss the breath-taking landscape of rolling hills, green trees, and farms on the sides of mountains. I miss the language and the way the natives speak it so beautifully. I miss the way I could see God working all around me in the community groups, the mentors, the kindness of the people, and the tremendous courage I saw in each child.

I am forever changed. These children are imprinted on my heart. I cannot think the same. I cannot love the same or speak the same. Every thought, action and word will be tempered with what I have experienced. I saw God at work in new ways that I did not think possible. I saw the power of a tiny inkling of hope. I experienced the power of community and prayer and love and grace. I saw a big God working in the lives of little people. I believe Zoe Ministry is changing the face of Rwanda and Africa. I’m thankful God let me be a small part of his work. I love serving a big God.

Rwanda!

Tomorrow I leave with 8 others from our church on a trip to Rwanda. This is my first trip to Africa and I am beyond excited! Zoe Ministry is an orphan empowerment program in Rwanda that our church has been supporting for a few years. In fact, today we celebrated the over 1000 orphans who are 2 years into the program thanks to the gracious generosity of our church. I can’t wait to interact with these precious ones and see how God is working in their lives. Please pray for me and the team, and stay tuned for updates!

You’re Unique, Stinky Feet

Helping kids find their true selves, the one God created them to be, is part of my mission in life. I long to see kids who are comfortable being themselves and growing into the person God created them to be. This can happen, but it takes a a lot of help from praying, encouraging, Godly adults. One such adult wrote a poem to encourage her own children, and it so strongly speaks to the God-Confidence I am trying to help kids find, that I had to share. Its cute, catchy and true. I hope you will share it with the children in your life.

You’re Unique, Stinky Feet

by Stephanie Keeney

 Do you have freckles or dimples? Are you messy or neat?

Do you have braces or glasses or big stinky feet?

Are you ticklish or pricklish? Or quiet or loud?

Are you a leader or part of the crowd?

Dark skin, light skin, tall or short?

Watch in the stands or play on the court?

Have an innie or an outie? Like the cold or the heat?

Missing tooth? Birthmark? Allergic to wheat?

We’re not all the same, it’s plain to see. It’s just the way we’re meant to be!

Brown eyes or blue eyes? Or hazel or green?

Or maybe a color somewhere in-between?

Long hair or short? Curly, wavy or straight?

Are you sometimes on time, or occasionally late?

Left-handed, right-handed, skinny or plump?

A homerun hitter or in a slight slump?

Are you wiggly or giggly? Little or big?

Perhaps you are bald, or wearing a wig?

We’re not all the same, it’s plain to see. Just be the best you that you can be!

God made you so special, and it shows,

Right down to the tips of your pinky toes!

So be proud of yourself and what makes you You!

‘Cause you’re unique, stinky feet…and guess what?

I am too!

You Lost Me -part 2

After listening to a podcast by David Kinnaman, author of You Lost Me, I wrote down some thoughts about how we can keep from losing our own kids. Last week, I shared part 1. Here are some continuing thoughts:

Instead of over-protecting your children, embed discernment into them. I’m not saying we should not shelter our kids from certain cultural realities, but we should temper our protection with some gentle exposure and lessons about decision-making. Teach them how to consult others, listen to their “gut” and make healthy choices. As Kinnaman stated, “prepare your kids for the grime of life.”

Equip them for the freedom they will have at 18. Kids are already more “free” than ever before with access to the world through media and the Internet. Doors are open for kids to be entrepreneurs, consumers and producers of services and goods. While this is a bit scary, we can be thankful that we still have them with us when they make impactful choices at earlier ages. We can help them navigate this world by creating clear boundaries and allowing some choices within our protective walls.

Embrace technology. I know it is hard to keep up with the pace of change we are experiencing, but this is and will be the norm for our kids. As my 15-year-old daughter put it, “I know it seems like things change fast to you, but it’s just always been this way to me.” You do not have to be an expert programmer or technology whiz, but you should take an interest in the technology your child uses. And remember, technology is just a tool. Use it as a tool to build relationships.

Finally, you don’t have to lose them at all. Kinnaman’s research reaffirms that the biggest influencing factor on a young adult’s faith, is still their parents. Though you may see them rolling their eyes when you talk about God, or complaining when you ask them to pray, they are prone to follow in your footsteps. Even the church doesn’t have a stronger impact.  So live it out. Talk about it. Pray a lot. Remember the words from Luke 19:10, “For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.” Be authentic in your struggles and watch as your kids catch the faith you are living.